That was my interpretation of a bucket list when I first came across the notion just a few years ago. I had heard of the term, many years before, but I had never really given it any serious thought.
What are you going to be when you grow up?
When I was growing up, this was the question that came closest to a bucket list style answer that I can remember. The question always transferred: adult to child, and I doubt any of them truly cared what my answer was. I assume they were just passing the time of the day because the interest never piqued beyond my answer of, “I want to be a professional footballer?” How I wished someone would have asked me: why, how and when?
It wasn’t until I stopped drinking alcohol that I actually decided to create a bucket list. I personally found the process very difficult. I guess we are not used to making choices, let alone believe that they can come true. So we end up staring at the blinking bar of Pong devoid of inspiration. We are caught up in a net of controls, constraints and current life. If you are anything like me you may even search the Internet for other peoples bucket lists. Maybe they have some inspiration for me? Maybe they have chosen to do something that I would also like to do? This is not a very inspirational way of creating a bucket list. This shouldn’t be a task. It should be an exercise of fun-filled hope and desire. My bucket list was becoming more of a hole in a bucket list.
My initial effort consisted of 81 things that I wanted to do before I died. In the first few years I forgot all about the list. Interestingly, when I found it again I had already completed some of them. I keep harking on about it, but the sub-conscious mind really is a wonderful thing. Then last year, I decided that I would set a goal to carry out five of my bucket list goals in 2012. I succeeded. But upon review I have been in a constant state of debate over what constitutes a bucket list goal. This is because achievement has not felt like it should. If these really are 81-things that I want to do before I die then surely I would feel ecstatic about achieving them? But with some of them I couldn’t care less. The impact has been barely noticeable.
So as I type I am still in debate, and I am not going to reach the answer anytime soon. So I have come up with an idea. I am going to write about my bucket list experiences, and then evaluate, to see if I can determine what aspects of the experience constitutes an ingredient of a real true life bucket list experience. The outcome will be interesting learning that hopefully separates a bit of fun from true life changing events.
I am going to create a new page in the blog called The Bucket List where I will link all of the blog posts together in one location. I hope you find it interesting and hope it may help you determine what is most important to you.
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