Welcome to another blog post in the series: Top Tips For Finding a Mentor. I never intended it to become a series, but as I started to write about my experiences with mentoring, I just couldn’t stop! To get the most benefit out of these posts I suggest you read the entire series.
In my last post entitled Top Tips for Finding a Mentor: Have Something They Need I spoke about the incentives I offered one of my first mentors: Martin “Dr Giggy” Fournier Giguere. At the end of that post I told you that the value I received from my relationship with Dr Giggy, did not come from his personal mentoring but instead from a process I like to call The Chain Reaction. The Chain Reaction is a series of beneficial events that occur after the initial meeting with your mentor.
The Chain Reaction is the gold that you are looking for when you place your pan in the river and start sifting for information
There will be times that a mentor will flit in and out of your life like a shooting star, but there will also be times when your relationship grows and you become friends. As your friendship develops you are introduced to your mentor’s circle of friends, and you will find like-minded people. From this pool of new people spawn the next lineage of mentors and friends. The cycle then repeats itself and it is this cycle I call The Chain Reaction.
If you have never played poker before then you are missing out on a wonderful experience. The game is built from a simple foundation but contains incredible depth. The top professionals in the game, like Dr Giggy, can earn several million dollars over a short time span, and to receive one to one tuition is an amazing privilege. Despite Dr Giggy agreeing to be my mentor he could not afford the time to give me one to one coaching, but he did not cut me adrift, and instead he introduced me to his housemate, fellow professional poker player and great coach Xavier Jutras.
Although The Chain Reaction created so much positivity, it did result in an entirely different set of problems that I had to face. As I moved further along the path, and was introduced to more and more Daydreamers, the Sleepwalkers in my life started to vanish into the ether. Some of them remained close but a lot of them started to resent me. In their eyes I had deteriorated as a human being, my priorities were all wrong and I had become too self absorbed – and in my next blog post I will write about this phenomenon.
Do you recognise The Chain Reaction happening in your life? Tell us a story if you do.
The Chain Reaction has been one of the most critical processes in my transformation from Sleepwalker to Daydreamer. When I first started on my journey, I was alone and afraid, not knowing whether or not I was treading along the right path. The people who had shared my heart for so many years could not tell me if I was heading in the right direction. I was changing and the people who loved me could see that and it scared them.
The Chain Reaction was critical because it was my way of meeting my early Daydreamers. They offered me comfort by telling me that I was walking the right path. They not only told me to keep on moving, but they handed me a map and a few tools to make sure that I would find my way safely and quickly.
This blog post was written as a result of my personal experiences with The Chain Reaction.