The first trick when finding a mentor is to be looking for one in the first place. In my blog post called The Bucket List I spoke about the power of turning on your internal satellite navigation system, and when you do, how the world just seems to hand you the opportunities you need to succeed in life. So it is your satellite navigation system that finds your mentors, but once you have found one how do you get them to listen to you? There is a lot of advice out there but my biggest piece of advice concerns that first meeting…
You need a good story!
The reason Dr Giggy gave me his 179k hand histories instead of the other 83 people who asked for them, was because of the way that I asked for them. I spent a long time writing to him to explain how important those hand histories were and how I believed they could help change my life. I told him that I had been working on the Railway for 19-years and had decided to quit real life and instead pursue a life of dreams. I also wrote to him in language that he understood and this is another important tip. In his videos I realised that Dr Giggy loved to swear and he has a sick sense of humour much the same as my own. So I used this to my advantage when I wrote to him because the language is important. I knew Dr Giggy would value the content of the story, and the way it was written, because here he was leading his own dream life and this is was our common bond. So once you have recognised your opportunity and decide to grab it, you need to work out your approach, and a heart rendering story is a great way to do this. If you don’t have a great story then just try to be as interesting as possible. So in my first meeting it was important that I made my first contact with Dr Giggy more noticeable than his contact with the other 82 people.
I think that instinct, that storytelling instinct, rescued me most of my life – Armistead Maupin
Once I had finished writing my e-mail I just asked him directly if he would find the time to mentor me. I told him that I would not take up too much of his time and that I felt he would also find a lot of value in the experience. Last but not least I had one more trick up my sleeve just incase my story was not convincing enough. In tomorrow’s blog post I will tell you what that trick was.
So everyone has a story to tell. If you wanted me to mentor you, what would your story be?
When I decided to create this blog I worked on some brainstorming and came up with a series of articles that I could write. Then as I lived my life, inspirational thoughts and ideas would come to me and I would add them to my blog list on my Wunderlist app. I have also realised that as I write one blog post I get the idea to write my next one. Marko Saric taught me that sometimes my blog posts can be a little long and if I was not careful I could lose the reader. This advice has prompted me to split my stories up into more manageable chunks. As I was writing Top Tips to Find a Mentor: Observing and Grabbing Opportunity I realised my thoughts were going to be too long and so the idea to write this separate blog post popped into my head. Then as I wrote this blog post another thought popped into my head to continue the series. It is important to explain how this process works because hopefully it will allow you to generate more ideas for your own blog posts.
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