How many times have you heard, or said, that statement? The truth is most people have something that bothers them. Life is hard if you allow it to be, and given the fact that we all allow life to be the puppet master it’s not that surprising. Most of us don’t even take a second to ask what the hell is going on. We get up brush our teeth, kiss our loved ones, head to a place of work that we hate, sit around waiting for the dreaded day to end, drive home, kiss our loved ones, watch TV and eat, kiss our loved ones, brush our teeth and go to bed.
The stresses and strains of a daily existence start as soon as the bell tolls. If you are being woken up when your body wants to sleep then that’s a bad sign. You either need more sleep or you are heading into a future that you neither like nor want. This is usually a hatred of your job. This hatred causes stress. Maybe you don’t hate your job, but instead it is boring. It’s still stress. Maybe you hate your boss or your co-workers = stress. So why work anyway? It’s because you need to pay the bills. Oh yes, that wonderful thing: money. The biggest reason for stress that there is.
The experts reckon that men are thinking about sex every few seconds. I reckon they are thinking about money more than sex. Even the extremely rich have their thoughts dominated by money. Their problems may revolve around philanthropy, or what the hell to do with it all? But the decision still causes stress. I had dinner with a man who had millions to give away, and he was really stressed out about how to make sure he got it right? Like two opposing forces, I was sat opposite him stressing out about how I was going to pay my mortgage.
Eventually, financial and career type stress turns into repressed emotions. These turn into little jack in the box moments. They spring up unexpectedly, usually scaring the shit out of those you love. Anger on a spring – lovely jubbly! And so you shout at your partner and your kids. Then you want sex, but your partner doesn’t want sex with you because you haven’t been treating them well enough. Jack in the box treatment is not sexy. It doesn’t bring the sexy lingerie and cowboy boots out of the cupboard. If you have a penchant for the whip, no doubt the other half would probably flog you to death with it. So you get angry that there is no sex and you develop a counter strike that usually involves doing something selfish like spending the next weekend down the pub with your mates. This isn’t all male either. The females get equally pissed off. In fact, most of them have it worse because they are stuck in a relationship with some hairy arsed mans-man who refuses to wash a dish or change a dirty nappy. How I hate those fucking men!
But it doesn’t have to be this way. Life can be a box of chocolates just like Forest Whatshisname said on that film about marathon running. You just need to get a grip. Start taking responsibility for your life and make things happen; positive things, things that you love, and not things that you have to do just because everyone else does the same thing.
If you have a problem trying to find a solution then maybe I can help with my six week Habit Change programme? If so e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org for further details.
Take a look in the mirror and tell us how your life is going?
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