In my previous blog post I wrote about the impact that The Success Principles by Jack Canfield had on my life. When I wrote Lean Thinking I also talked about the way that people move through author’s book collections because they like what they read and want to read more. Canfield has an extensive book collection but there is one particular book (and more importantly a film) that has made it onto my list of top ten most influential books.
As I ploughed through the pages of The Success Principles there were a lot of teachings that went down like ice cream and a few that went down like soggy sprouts. A few things I had a problem digesting were affirmations and the principles behind The Law of Attraction. I have never been a spiritual or religious man, and for some reason I coupled the philosophy of the Law of Attraction with these two spheres of influence. In short I thought it was all gobbledygook.
The Key to Living The Law of Attraction by Jack Canfield and D.D.Watkins made me think deeper about how thoughts were created and impacted on my life, the power of affirmation and how my mind was hard wired by society. Most importantly I decided to purchase the film The Secret and all I can say is WOW! I have since learned that this short film has different effects for everyone but here is my tale.
I was lying on my sofa with my earphones jacked into my laptop while I watched The Secret. My ex wife was watching a wildlife programme on TV because I remember the spots of a leopards skin as the tears stung my eyes. My son was also sat on the couch and he was playing on a hand held game. After I had finished watching it I was filled with a sudden realisation that I had wasted 34-years of my life. This did not mean that everything that I had experienced and held dear to me was a waste, on the contrary, instead I was just so angry that my life had been mapped out for me and I had seemingly been unaware of the word CHOICE.
After the credits had stopped rolling I had a feeling of total and utter despair mingled with anger. I was angry with everybody: my parents, my teachers, my government, the world but most of all myself. How was I stupid enough to allow society to shove its hand up my arse and use me as a puppet! Why didn’t somebody tell me earlier that I could have been anything I wanted to be? Why didn’t somebody tell me earlier that I could have done anything that I wanted to do?
My ex wife and son were stunned as I wailed and cried uncontrollably. After I had eventually calmed down my ex wife asked me what was the matter with me. I described The Secret and how it had ended by challenging me to test The Law of Attraction for myself. My ex wife asked me to give it a try after all what was the worst that could happen? At the end of The Secret a challenge was set for you to think about someone who was missing from your life. Someone you had or still loved but had not been a part of your life for a very long time. The challenge was to think about them and then the opportunity to be reconnected would represent itself. I decided to concentrate on Andrew, a person who had been my best friend for years. We had ceased communication a few years ago but I had always missed him. I closed my eyes and thought about all of the happy memories before heading to bed with puffy red eyes.
The next morning I woke up and headed off to work. The rain was pouring and the windscreen wipers were working feverishly back and fore. I slowed down to allow a car to pull out in front of me and at the last minute indicated to take its place. It was just outside the shop and so I thought I would go in and get myself a sandwich. As I stood in line to pay I got a tap on the shoulder. I turned around and it was Andrew’s dad, someone I had not seen for nearly ten years. He said that I looked as if I had seen a ghost and I told him the story of The Secret. He laughed at me, like people do when you talk about The Law of Attraction, and gave me Andrew’s number. On the way home from work that day I rang Andrew and we spoke for an hour. I told him about The Secret and he laughed as well.
“It’s just a load of old gobbledygook,” said Andrew.
What is the most influential book you have ever read? Please share it with us.
I don’t understand why I bumped into Andrew’s dad after the visualisation task. Some people will say it is random coincidence. I have not picked up The Key to Living The Law of Attraction since I first read it and that must have been 3 or 4 years ago. I have just leafed through it and in the back there is a page entitled: To fully live The Law of Attraction and create the life of your dreams you must:
- Use your affirmations daily
- Use your gratitude journal daily
- Use your vision book daily
- Spend time each day in prayer or meditation
- Stay true to your purpose
- Believe in your dreams
- Focus on the positive
- Live in a state of constant gratitude
- Visualise the life you desire
- Be generous
- Be happy
- Do the things that make you feel good
- Find the best in every situation
- Listen to your inner voice
- Respond to internal and external feedback
- Follow through on your inspired thoughts.
I have just realised that I do everything on that list. I have not written that list down nor have I read it in the past 3 or 4 years.
Maybe this stuff is not simply just a load of old gobbledygook after all?
If you want to seek more help and guidance on these issues, and hang with like minded individuals who struggle with the same problems, then why not head over to the Needy Helper Hub