I got into the car and I had two bananas in my hand. One was for my partner, who was driving the car, and the other was for me. She pulled the stick back and off we went. I pulled back the skin from the banana and started to eat.
“Can you open mine for me as well please?” Asked my partner, and I duly obliged.
Why didn’t I open her banana first?
This is who I am. I am the guy who listens to the stewardesses on the plane telling us to put on your own oxygen mask first, all the while thinking, ‘Why would anyone do it any other way?”
I am inherently selfish. I look after number one. People who are close to me will tell you that I am thoughtful, loving and caring and they are all attributes that I hold true, but at the core of my being I look after number one.
This double helix of who I am, coupled with my insatiable appetite for control, smashed my previous marriage into smithereens. It causes my son to question every word that spills out of his mouth. He’s scared that the person who was put on this earth to protect him is judging him.
My partner is one of the most intuitive people that I have ever met. She can read me like a book. She can read every twitch, murmur and sound. She knows me better than I know myself. She says I judge her. I say everyone judges everyone. But I guess I would say that, because to admit otherwise is to relinquish control.
The Art of Love Relationship Series by Arielle Ford has been a really helpful resource as I continue to learn more about relationships and the power of love.
The course cost me $97 and in return I received over 30 downloadable audio files from the likes of John Gray, Jack Canfield, Arielle Ford, Don Miguel Ruiz, Gay Hendricks, Alanis Morissette and Mastin Kipp.
I have listened to all of the tapes and although I didn’t enjoy them all, am sure that my sub conscious has been given something else to search for. I like to listen to them when I am running. It gives me time to pore over the content and apply it to my own relationships.
Since listening to the audio files I am more aware when I take action in my relationships. I am thinking about what I am going to say and how I am going to say it before I say it. I am more aware of body language, I have become a better listener and I have chilled out a lot.
Most importantly, I have started to think about peeling other people’s bananas first. I have found that by behaving in this way I am receiving a lot of love. People love me the way I yearn to be loved and it has all begun because I decided to take action by listening to the Art of Love series by Arielle Ford.
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