I quit alcohol in 2009 to save my marriage. It didn’t turn out like I thought it would. I knew I would stop. There was no doubt in my mind. But I was elated when it happened. The hyenas were no longer laughing at me. There was peace and quiet. I felt like a great big baseball mitt had caught my life just before it was about to crash into a brick shit house.
And then she told me to leave.
The judgments cut deep.
I couldn’t help it.
I hated alcohol; not because it was slowly killing me, but because it had stolen my wife.
I promised my son nothing would change (a lie) and then moved into my parent’s spare room.
And then change came.
My now ex-wife put all of my belongings into the front room and told me to collect them. I rang a friend and said he could have everything I owned. I took some clothes, my laptop, my kindle and a TV and PlayStation so my son had something to do during fortnightly visitations.
I was in pain, but I was also thinking clearly for the first time. I had already quit smoking and alcohol. I had left my career as a 19-year railwayman to find meaning and purpose.
And, I found it here in these pages.
I decided I would spend my life serving others.
The Needy Helper is a movement that helps people remove the leverage that alcohol has on their relationships. We provide community, connection and the tools to help you curate a new life.
It’s hard to do this alone; I know because I took that route. Don’t make the same mistake I did. When lonely, log into the Needy Helper Hub and talk to like-minded people. Check-in on a daily basis. Seek help & guidance.
I have experienced quitting smoking, alcohol and gambling. I paid back over £30,000 in debt. I have experienced divorce with children involved. I have fallen in love again, remarried and learned to be a sober father.
I quit my career on the railway after 19-years to start this movement. I lost my home and gave all of my possessions away. I quit sugar, became vegan and became a meditator.
I overcame a pornography addiction, became an effective altruist, and experienced new cultures by travelling all over the world.
If I can do these things, so can you.
Join the Needy Helper movement.
Stop drinking; start thinking, because you only get one life.