I am starting to become convinced that taxi driving is an occupation that people undertake when they are moving from one life to another. It’s almost like a serene pasture for them. Somewhere to earn a bit of money whilst their mind is free to discover what it is that they want to do next. I don’t own a car and I travel a lot, so I meet a lot of taxi drivers, and a lot of them have a great understanding of what life is all about. But as is the case with a lot of people in life, they still haven’t managed to move on from thinking to acting.
This morning I left my home in South Wales, UK, to travel to Monte Carlo, France, I rang a driver called Jeff to come and pick me up because I really enjoy talking to him. We are strangers, after meeting once before, but the intimacy that a cab journey offers you accentuates your relationship and I feel like I have known him for years. The first time I took a cab with him the journey flew by and when we had reached the airport we were still deep in discussion. This morning we continued from where we had left of previously.
“You make it sound so easy,” said Jeff as we talked about the changes that I had made in life.
None of the changes that I have made in my life were easy. But the more changes I make, the easier it is to make them. After all we are creatures of habit and my habits are the same as so many other peoples. When you make your first really big change you realise that all of the drama was really an illusion created just to stop you from changing. Nothing happens except for positive things. This allows you to make your next big change that much easier. You now understand the illusion and are ready to embrace the improvements in your life that will inevitably follow.
As Jeff and I parted company I told him to spend some time contemplating what it is in life that he wanted to do. It was obvious to me that driving a cab does not fulfill his life’s ambition, but it was equally obvious that he didn’t really know what his life’s ambition was. Jeff was clearly aware that something was not quite right in his life, of that there is no doubt, but he hasn’t yet nailed down his life purpose. Thinking about this and writing his thoughts down on paper will enable him to work out what it is he wants to do.
“Remember I am a lot older than you…I am 52-years of age,” he said before we exchanged goodbyes.
Excuses are bombs for your body. Weapons that they conveniently drop into the middle of your thoughts to blast away at any potential change you may be considering. Excuses drive fear and fear scares you so much than you remain motionless. Saying that you are too old to do anything is one of these bombs. A timely excuse that allows you to continue doing what you do, while all the time complaining that what you do is not good enough.
“Jeff, why do you think you are too old, especially when you have not discovered what your true life purpose is?”
If, after contemplation, you decide that your one true purpose in life is to be an Olympic Gymnast then I may believe your assumption that you are too old. But think about why your mind uttered those words in the first place? Ask yourself why did I say that I was too old? I think the reason you said it was sub-conscious and you didn’t even realise you were saying it at all. It was a pre-determined trigger that your mind was ready to activate should someone like me come along and say what I did. I laid down the challenge; your mind got scared and out came the pre-determined response.
I AM TOO OLD
Your mind thinks you are too old because this is what our society believes. If you haven’t made it in life as soon as you leave school then your life is over. Add into that mix a few years in a relationship, children and several abortive attempts at creating careers and it is all to easy to see how the words, “I am too old,” manifest themselves inside the minds of aspiring but seemingly helpless individuals.
“Jeff, don’t use age as an excuse for making the changes you want to make in your life. Do not get stuck in your elephant’s graveyard that is the taxicab. You are a smart man and I can see that you are ripe for change. Don’t let your mind fool you anymore. Figure out what it is you want to do and then go and get it. The only thing stopping you is your mind and you control your mind you old git.”
What excuses do you use in order to retain the status quo?
It really annoys and saddens me when I talk to people who are displaying the necessary qualities to make positive changes in their lives, but also display fear in equal ferocity. When the two clash, fear always wins, and the person just continues to plod on in life. This is why I started this blog, because I feel helpless under normal circumstances. I can’t tell Jeff what to do or make him believe that his mind is playing tricks on him. Jeff, like everyone else on the planet, needs to figure it out on his or her own. All I can do is keep writing and hope that it inspires people to take action. Jeff said I make it sound so easy and although I said that it isn’t, on a certain level some of it is. Taking the first step is easy. Acknowledging that you need to change and are going to change is easy. Take that first step.
Photo courtesy of