It’s your thoughts that matter. What you think about becomes your life.
Think about that for a moment?
Did you know that on average optimists live longer than pessimists? Which would you prefer to be? Perhaps you are stubborn and insist on being a pessimist.
Why have you made that choice?
Seth Godin’s All Marketers Tell Stories is a book that can be viewed in a myriad of ways.
I choose to look at it as a very important exercise that can help us all learn to live a Lean Life, and it revolves around our constant need to create negative stories and then play them out in our every day lives.
We live in a world of possibility and yet most of us walk around with an anchor tied to our ankle. Etched into the rust are the words, ‘limiting beliefs’.
I once ate a meal with three other people in Heston Blumenthal’s Fat Duck restaurant in Bray in the UK. Have a guess how much the final bill was?
In order to teach my clients to live a Lean Life I teach them about the importance of eradicating waste from their lives. There are 10 categories of wastes that are prevalent in a Lean Life, and one of those categories is:
‘Limiting Habits and Beliefs.’
Remember, the point of this short series is to show you how living a Lean Life can help you remove your limiting beliefs because when you do so you will achieve happiness.
So where do you start?
How many of you even know what your limiting beliefs are? Close your eyes and see how many become immediately apparent to you?
It’s not easy is it?
I am currently experiencing the intense value that meditation and emotional freedom techniques (EFT) provide, but it didn’t always use to be this way.
Take me back a few years and place me in the company of someone who was choosing to sit in peace and quiet for 40-minutes per day and I would have thought they had a screw loose.
Add the image of a person tapping certain parts of his body whilst verbalising a series of woes, then I would be carting them off to the nut house myself.
When I read about these techniques I thought about religion, something I have had a deep aversion to since my mother lost a child during pregnancy when I was 10-years old.
It made me realise that the world was full of awful things and so I decided there was no such thing as God. I created a limiting belief.
Meditation and EFT have nothing to do with God, however, my beliefs around these practices didn’t allow any wiggle room here. This was my view and nobody was going to push me off it.
Have you ever heard the saying, ‘You cannot manage what you cannot measure?’
If you are a student of Lean Life then you have, because I don’t shut up about it.
You can identify some of these beliefs by carrying out a simply brainstorming exercise. This will wash a lot of them out of your system, but this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Most limiting beliefs only reveal themselves to you in the heat of the moment. Something will happen during your day and you will think:
Ah! There’s a limiting belief!
This is where the power of journaling comes in. During the Lean Life course I teach people that measurements are the key to everything, and in order to measure you need data.
You don’t need to have an educated guess at what your limiting beliefs might be, when you can use hard facts. You will be amazed what patterns materialise when you start recording your limiting beliefs in your journal.
So if you want to learn how to start overcoming your limiting beliefs, and can’t be bothered to go through my six week habit change course called Lean Life (probably because you have a limiting belief about how training courses can change your life). Then start asking yourself this question every night before you go to bed.
“Did I experience a limiting belief today?”
There is a specific way of answering this question that I teach in Lean Life, but even if you don’t join the course, answering the question in your own way will be a way of removing a few bricks from those walls in your life.
So what about that bill in the Fat Duck? Remember, it’s a three star Michelin restaurant? The geezer cooks his food in liquid nitrogen!
Wait…before you leave.
Remember my limiting beliefs about EFT and meditation? They were centred on my lack of faith in religion. Do you know how I managed to reframe this belief so it was no longer limiting
It was a lesson I received whilst having a bath with my seven-year-old son that involved Santa Claus…something I will share with you tomorrow.