One of the biggest issues that my clients face is the erosion of self-motivation.
When they start the Lean Life Coaching Course their levels of self-motivation are filled to the brim. They are excited, apprehensive and full of energy.
Changing your life is hard work. Hard works depletes energy. Suddenly, the excitement wanes, fear and doubt creep in and the levels of self-motivation are as dry as the Sahara Desert.
So how safe is your self-motivation from fizzling out?
It’s not safe at all. If you stand still it will bleed. If you take the wrong action it will bleed. If you ignore it, it will bleed.
Here are 10 important factors that I believe will help put a cork in the bottle marked ‘Self Improvement.”
I hope you draw inspiration from them.
#1 Feel It
Self-motivation is intangible. It’s invisible. The first step towards protecting your self-motivation from fizzling out is to recognise and accept it for what it is. It is you. The word ‘self’ has been attached to the word ‘motivation’ to make this lesson easier for you.
The self is within. Self-motivation therefore comes from within. You can’t see it, hear it, touch it or smell it; but you can feel it. How can you develop awareness if you don’t learn to appreciate its aliveness to begin with?
#2 Have a Purpose
Self-motivation begins with purpose. Purpose defines everything you do. Getting out of bed is purpose, brushing your teeth is purpose, flying a kite is purpose, traveling around the world is purpose.
Understand what makes you happy and use that as the apex. Give that the name ‘life purpose’, and then allow hundreds of little goals to cascade downwards towards your actions.
Understand what it is you do, every time you do it.
#3 Have a Plan
Everything that you do, you plan to do. Something’s are planned years in advance, some months, some days, some hours, some minutes and some in seconds; but everything is planned.
Self-motivation needs constancy and the plan is that constancy. Don’t make the mistake of leaving your plan rest in your mind. This is the place that loses the name of a stranger whose warmth still lies in the palm of your shake. Don’t trust it. It will let you down.
Write everything down. Breathe life into it. Turn it into a masterpiece.
#4 Take Action
The lazy can only hope to get lucky.
Those among us who take action create luck.
There are different forms of action. Learn to understand them. There is non-value added action, which is action out of alignment with everything that has gone before: the feeling, the purpose and the planning. If the action doesn’t in any way, shape or form align with any of the aforementioned critical success factors then it is non value added.
Non-value added action = waste. We abhor waste. We hate waste. We seek and destroy waste.
Then there is value added action. Action that is aligned in everything you feel, find purpose in and plan. If you continue to take action, no matter how small, you will keep a grasp of self-motivation no matter how tight or loose it may be.
Self-motivation needs confirmation to survive. It is the air that it breathes.
Some people are spurred on by failure and others by victory. Which are you? How do you even know without measure?
You plan; you take action and you measure.
Did you know that you are more likely to get more done on a Monday than you are on a Friday? Of course you don’t because you don’t measure.
All value added action should be measured bar none. It is critical to the survival of your self-motivation.
Once you have measured you should then…
What do your measures tell you?
Measures are worthless if they are never inspected, dissected, prodded and poked. Play with them and have fun. No business in the world would ever succeed without measures. Treat your life like a business and make it the most enjoyable business in the world.
#7 Personal Continuous Improvement
You have to keep on keeping on.
Something within you needs to keep on pushing. All that I have written before this point is a series of steps helped to automate your life. Automation and the creation of positive habits will make sure your self-motivation remains safely under lock and key.
Once you have analysed your measures you need to identify those parts that work well and do more of them, and identify those parts that don’t do so well and change them.
If you are not getting your work done on a Friday, and are flying through your work on a Monday then tip the balance of the scales. Do not maintain the status quo. Do not keep trying to do more on a Friday. Succumb to who you are. Make a change. Keep on improving by identifying your weak spots and created a change to strength them.
Set your alarm on your mobile device to go off every hour with the word ’smile’ and see what happens.
Misery is a virus that seeks out and destroys self-motivation, and every molecule attached to it. When the lips turn downwards at the edges your hopes and dreams slide onto the floor. People walk all over them and they die.
Keep on smiling, keep on doing everything in your power to remain happy. Watch a comedy, play with your children or make love.
Happiness and self-motivation are like twins.
#9 Give Misery Guts The Elbow
It’s not only your own misery that eats away at self-motivation. You are also ceaselessly under attack from the misery of others. Friends, partners, parents, children and work colleagues. They all drain the life out of you. Before you know it you are all skin and bones.
Do not spend time with miserable people. If you have to then make it minimal, and be authentic and honest with them. Tell them why you are not spending more time with them. Then try and help them change.
Self-motivation may come from within, but happiness comes from the energy that emanates from those closest to you. It’s just a shame that the same is true when it comes to their negativity.
If you want to keep self-motivation pumping then work, not only on you, but also on those that you care about the most.
When you give you will receive.
Children believe in Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny. Belief creates wonderment and joy.
People believe in religion and God. It provides them with inspiration, courage and strength.
Is there any evidence that Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny or even God exists?
You do not need evidence. You just need to make a choice to believe. If this is difficult for you then remember that you are the owner of this choice. Commit to the creation of new beliefs. Go back to the start of this article and insert ‘Creating Belief’ onto the apex and start working on everything that slides down.
Brainwash yourself. Do whatever you can to convince yourself that you can do what it is you set out to do. If you don’t believe then you have nothing. It won’t happen. You are wasting your time.
Use affirmations, both visual and audio, use EFT, and any other tool that’s out there designed to create a change through the force of habit.
It’s a combination of a million different little habits that will keep self-motivation playing your favourite tune.
Creating belief is no different.
Start singing today.
Now start as you mean to go on and take action. What points resonated with you? What challenges do you face? Is there anything that you would add to this list?
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