The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast Presents: Kristy Arnett


Kristy Arnett is the co-founder of Mentor, a mobile platform that provides on-demand connections between people and mentors via live stream interaction.She is also the founder of Center LLC, a coaching business that empowers people to live vibrant, courageous lives through health, fitness, and emotional intelligence.

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The Alcohol & Addiction Podcast Presents: Connection With Liza and Lee


Rewind a few years and had you asked me what being ‘connected’ to my partner meant I would have thought about sex. I was a very one-dimensional being. On the outside, I appeared to care about everyone, but internally all I cared about was myself. I was incapable of empathy because I didn’t understand what it was. I couldn’t hold space for people because I was so desperate to fill it. I was unable to listen because I couldn’t stop talking. When someone close to me talked about their problems I tried to solve them.

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Dependency & Addiction

Fire Keeper

I blamed my ex-wife when my marriage imploded.

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Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg, a Book Review


If I weren’t in the passenger seat I would have crashed the car. My wife is driving. We have somehow managed to get into an argument over nothing. I’m frustrated. I know my defence is making it worse, but the alternative is submission. That’s weakness. I will not be weak.

I shout.

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Wabi Sabi Love by Arielle Ford

Crevice Technique

I bought Wabi Sabi Love by Arielle Ford after the title cropped up so many times during the audio recordings found on The Art of Love Relationship Series.

“Wabi Sabi love is the art and practice of loving the imperfections in ourselves and in our partners. It is not mere acceptance or denial of the things that may annoy us or even drive us crazy but rather a deep and profound appreciation for the uniqueness of each other.” – Arielle Ford.

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The Art of Love Relationship Series by Arielle Ford


I got into the car and I had two bananas in my hand. One was for my partner, who was driving the car, and the other was for me. She pulled the stick back and off we went. I pulled back the skin from the banana and started to eat.

“Can you open mine for me as well please?” Asked my partner, and I duly obliged.

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Controlling Conflict

Screaming Out My Pain
It’s happening again. There is pressure and it is building. Like an old fashioned kettle I am about to whistle. I can feel the steam rushing through the canals like a whipped up wave. There will be a rush soon. It’s coming. People will turn to stone.

Sometimes I scream. A sharp intake, a swell of the chest, a clenched throat and the release of a gravelling tone. My eyes hit the roof of my lids, my neck cranes back and I grip my hair with both of my hands. I don’t know what to do, and I am afraid. The alternatives go through my mind in seconds. By brain processes each one-check…check…check…check…check. Nope, it’s no use. No matter what I do I will cause harm. There is no right way out of this mess. There is just a screw up. I am a screw up.

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Fight Club

Fight Club Soap
How many of you know couples that never argue? I know a few, and as much as I admire them, I really don’t think it is conducive for a healthy relationship. On the other hand, couples that argue too much are also in for a very rough ride, if their destination is a happy relationship. Moving out of the personal relationship and into the business relationship, and how many of those thrive without confrontation and conflict? I know in my previous work environment, confrontation and the presence of conflict was an every day occurrence.

In my last blog post Learn How to Listen I wrote about the importance of learning better listening skills, because it was such a crucial part of our lives. Well guess what? So is learning how to effectively manage conflict. [Read more…]

Learn How to Listen

Antony Gormley "Untitled (Listening)"
When we are awake, we spend more time listening than any other activity. You are probably thinking he’s wrong…my other half says I never listen, and you make a good point. Common sense should dictate that if you are going to spend so much time listening then you will become very good at it; or at least want to become very good at it. Unfortunately, as we touched upon in the blog post Start Learning How to Communicate human beings are inherently bad at doing the things that are most important to them.

Having a pair of ears means you can hear, it does not give you a qualification in the art of listening

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Start Learning How to Communicate


We sometimes forget that Homo sapiens are just one of the millions of different types of species that live on this planet. We are sat on the throne, positioned at the top of the evolutionary food chain, and we take the mantle a little bit for granted. The reason that we currently own that throne is because we somehow managed to turn everyday grunts, howls and screams into words – both verbal and written.

Just because we can communicate more effectively, does not mean that we are very good at it. Ironically, in a world that has developed technology allowing us to talk to people walking on the moon, most people cannot even handle a face-to-face conversation very well. We don’t share our emotions, we generate an illusory personality to hide the real us, we tell lies because we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings; and we don’t listen because, when people are talking, we are thinking about what we are going to eat for tea, or formulating our response. A conversation just becomes a heads-up confrontation with the winner being the first person to offload all of his or her problems first.

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