The world is challenging me like never before. Pornography has the same strength of pull as sugar does (pardon the pun). Quitting nicotine and alcohol was easy for me. Once I could see that the pair of them offered me zero benefits I found it easy to quit. It doesn’t matter what situation I find myself in, I am never tempted by nicotine or alcohol. Pornography is different. It does provide me with some benefits and so I need a different game plan.
Dr. Kevin B. Skinner provides that game plan in this quite wonderful book. It’s is quite simply stunning. One of the best self-improvement books I have ever read. It has a quite beautiful balance. The journey that he takes you on throughout the 10-chapters in this book is quite gripping. I don’t care if you have never watched pornography. If personal continuous improvement is something you crave, then you will love this book.
Skinner helps you understand where your pornography problem stems from. Of course you have to go right back to your first involvement with pornography. This was something that I did when I wrote my real life story, but I went even deeper by answering the questions that Skinners poses – all 45 of them.
My form of journaling has changed completely as a result of Skinners work, and I thank Chapter Nine: Relapse Prevention Journal – A Tool to Use in Recovery for that. It was a detailed collection of journal entries from one of Skinners clients as he went through a yearlong fight against his urges to view pornography. The first-person writing style allows you to really get into the mind of the character as he pours his struggles onto his beloved journal. Not only did it inspire, and help me, but it also re-enforced my belief in the power of getting your own life story out of your head and share it with the world.
Do not be fooled into thinking that a person with a pornography addiction is some sort of dirty old pervert. Nothing could be further from the truth. Most of these addictions happened when people’s minds were too immature to even comprehend what they were watching. It’s not a subject matter that is discussed in school, and it’s rarely discussed between parent and child. It’s not even a topic that is often discussed between best of friends; and yet it’s a world that is growing ever stronger, tightening it’s grip on a society that has blurred the lines so much that it’s difficult to tell pornography from every day entertainment.
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